Sometimes there are more than usual of that which is out of your control.

Either go with the flow or against it, are only two options, but there’s one more that most don’t realize yet use beforehand while trying to choose from the two. You don’t need to go against the flow when there’s no harm, yet stay on your own individual path to better yourself.

Stand still. When you’re unsure, don’t choose. If there’s no urgency, wait it out until you have all the information you need to make the better choice. What’s best for others may not be best for you and what’s good for you may do other individuals harm.

Be it career choices, medications and treatments, renting or owning a home; all life-changing decisions for yourself of which you can control, they’re yours to choose alone.

That is how you control your own life.

It’s okay to be unsure and look at both options before officially choosing either of the two. Hesitation, can be expected.

Try to relax and breathe when stressed out or before making a choice, take the time to think it over. Weigh the pros and cons of each possible outcome, for each choice.

With the smaller choices, don’t get hung up on all the “what ifs” in life, just keep moving forward.

Choosing between two different ice cream flavors, unless you’re allergic, it’s not going to be a life-changing choice.

Hesitating for the small things is an okay thing to do. Not hesitating and not thinking through before making a life-changing choice, is considered irresponsible or viewed by others as outrageous; it is, in some ways.

It’s okay to ask others for their own opinions and choose differently from them.

Asking about the experience of others is the best and safest way to learn with out ever literally going through with it yourself.

Everyone’s experience of the same thing, could easily be spoken of differently by each individual of whom experienced it.

Choosing differently is not a bad thing, nor is choosing the same choice as others.

It’s just always better to be informed beforehand rather than for example, throw a surprise birthday party for someone who has extreme heart failure. The end result s might end up with that person’s birthday being their last day alive. Seriously, think.